Dating has consumed so much of my thinking in the last few years. It’s also got me thinking about good dating habits and cues that you are with someone good. It’s made me reflect on how blessed I am and how important it is to just meet people and let them change your life.
It’s inevitable that the people we come across in our lives will change us. And how great that can be.
So here are some things I’ve learned from meeting people and dating. (In no particular order of significance, and there’s more I could still add.)
- There’s lots of good in people.
- The qualities that you look for in a partner may not always be what you date. Physical appearance and character.
- The next person you date should be better than the last. That is not to say that the last person you dated wasn’t great. What I mean is, if you’re dating someone who’s better for you that maybe you are learning and growing and finding yourself and in the right direction. Maybe closer to being with who you’re supposed to be with.
- Oh yeah, dating is about meeting people. It’s also an opportunity to learn about yourself.
- Also, sometimes we need people in certain parts of our lives and that’s it.
- There’s a beauty in leaving a relationship in good terms. Or coming to good terms. (I wrote a blog post about this. Go check it out!)
- Own it. Be yourself. Cliche, but it’s true. Don’t pretend to be anyone. When you, are you and you love yourself people can see and feel it.
- Think about who you are and if you would date yourself. We need to learn, grow, build, and develop qualities, skills, lessons, ideas, and character. Other people like those kinds of things in people too.
- I truly believe that if you have good relationships with your family and friends that you will have good (or likely to) relationships when it comes to dating. The relationships we build with family and friends is practice to who we will marry.
- Learn how to apologize and to move on. Hard I know. But soooooooo important.
- Girls should initiate spending time with guys too. Whether it’s “hanging out” or asking them on a date. It shouldn’t be taboo to show interest.
- Loving someone isn’t about scrounging up time to spend with them. You just make time for them.
- Dating is scary. It’s being vulnerable with someone else.
- Almost all of the relationships I’ve ever had was because I talked to the guy and then told them I liked them. Turns out sometimes you just have to do it. If you want to date, take the initiative to meet people. Becaaaause…..
- The best intimate relationships are the ones where you are also friends. Sometimes you start as friends.